British Mother Says Sex With Her Son is ‘Incredible’

Here’s not something you were expecting on a Saturday morning: a mother has sex engages in the bologna bop with her son, but it’s okay, because they are totally in love. [11] The magazine New Day reports about a mother who gave up her son for adoption 30 years ago who is now saying that she’s in love with him and has revealed the couple are trying for a baby together.  Kim West, 51, has been in a relationship with her biological son, Ben Ford, 32, for two years after he sent her a letter out of the blue in 2013. [2] A mother reunited with the son she gave up for adoption 30 years ago says now they’re in love – and trying for a baby together.  The couple were brought together after Ben, who was living in the US, sent his England-born mum a letter out of the blue in 2013.   Kim West, 51, has been in a relationship with her biological son Ben Ford, 32, for two years and believe they are ‘meant to be’ after she was forced to give him up for adoption just a week after he was born. [1]  Ben Ford, who ditched his wife when he met his mother Kim West after 30 years, claims what the couple are doing ‘isn’t incest’ [2] Instead they claim it is ‘Genetic Sexual Attraction’, a term used for relatives who feel sexual attraction for each other after meeting as adults. [1] In normal families that isn’t an issue because of something researchers call the Westermarck Effect, which they believe is a process of reverse sexual imprinting. Essentially it’s a phenomenon that prevents inbreeding by ensuring we aren’t physically attracted to family members. [3] The Westermarck Effect appears to happen when people live in close proximity – and of course, Kim and Ben didn’t. But there must be more to it than that, or every adopted child reunited with their biological parents would experience similar attraction. And they don’t.  That’s why (commenting about the Twitter backlash of this viral story) Metro UK  thinks that they deserve “help” not “hate.” [3]

While stories like this might surprise or even disgust you, there may actually be a scientific or sociological basis for sexual attraction between siblings who were separated at a young age.  As a 2011 University of Illinois study published in the Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin found, people appear to be drawn to others who resemble their kin or themselves — with those findings leading psychologist RC Fraley to speculate: “It is possible [that] as Freud suggested, incest taboos exist to counter this primitive tendency.”  The Guardian reports that, while  the frequency of cases GSA cases is difficult to quantify, some post-adoption agencies estimate that elements of GSA occur in a shocking 50% of reunions.

As Gonyo argues in her book I’m his Mother but he’s not my Son, sexual attraction between siblings may be a byproduct of “missed bonding” that would have normally taken place between family members had they not been separated. GSA may also be explained by the “Westermarck” affect — named after sociologist Edward Westermarck —  which holds that people living in close domestic proximity during the early years of life are desensitised to sexual attraction later in life.  Relatives who don’t live together miss out on the the daily events that prevent such attraction from occurring– so that, in effect, the ‘Westermarck’ effect doesn’t have a chance to work in those situations, as Canadian GSA expert and counsellor Dianne Mathes told CBC News. [10]

The pair began exchanging phone calls before agreeing to meet up, Kim saying it was like they had ‘known each other for years’.   Kim, who is an interior designer from Islington, said she started noticing her attraction to her son and started having ‘sexy dreams’ about him.  Confused by her feelings, she Googled it and discovered an article on GSA, which made her feel relieved. [2]   Ben, who lived in Colorado, also felt as though a weight had lifted and told her he had stopped having feelings for his wife. [2] The pair agreed to meet at a hotel where they ordered alcohol and after a bottle of champagne shared their first kiss. [1]

Three days later Ben told a disgusted Victoria he was leaving her for his mum and the couple flew to Michigan, where they had help from another GSA couple in setting up a new life. Kim told the New Day sex with Ben was “incredible and mind-blowing”. [1] She said: “This is not incest, it is GSA. We are like peas in a pod and meant to be together. “I know people will say we’re disgusting, that we should be able to control our feelings, but when you’re hit by a love so consuming you are willing to give up everything for it, you have to fight for it. “It’s a once in a lifetime chance and something Ben and I are not willing to walk away from.” [1] [5] She says that she knows that people will have a bad reaction to them, that they will say horrible things but that she is willing to battle for her relationship. [2] Incest is illegal in the couple’s new home Michigan, as it is in the UK, but the pair are willing to move state to tie the knot. A Michigan mum was jailed for nine years in 2010 for having sex with the 14-year-old biological son she gave up for adoption when he was a baby. [7] [9]

Here is what Mark Dice had to say on the subject: